Groom With a View #2: Breaking With TraditionsPosted: August 21, 2016
Pizza. Who doesn’t like pizza. The beauty of pizza is that you can choose your own toppings. Regardless of what you add or subtract it is still a pizza.
But imagine if people were annoyed or disappointed with what you picked on your pizza. Or told you that you should stick something on it despite you not liking it.
That’s what wedding traditions are like. They are the extras you add to the base, and you can pick and choose which ones you have. And which you decide to leave out.
But that doesn’t mean people won’t complain about your choices, like a friend who turns up their nose at your decision to have olives.
One tradition that MWF nixed early on is the bouquet toss. Which I definitely agree with.
It’s a tradition that seems old fashioned and a little sexist, a throwback to a time when getting married was viewed as a woman’s goal in life. The undignified scrapping to be next down the aisle just seems stupid.
And the male equivalent, throwing the garter just seems creepy and embarrassing for everyone.
I get why traditions are a big deal, it’s a sense of culture and continuity, a connection to the past and the familiarity is comforting. And I even like some of them, which is why we’re keeping some for our wedding. However, I don’t think you should just blindly follow a routine because “that’s the way we’ve always done it”.
Change is good. And even better is doing what you want.
So, wear a red dress, have a best woman, forego the first dance or have a themed ceremony.
It’s your wedding day, so you should do what makes you happy, not what you’re told to do because it’s the done thing.
Who knows? You might start a new tradition.
Any thoughts? You know what to do. BETEO.